WE ASKED ALI AND FINN, FOUNDERS OF THE POSITIVE PLANNER, TO SHARE THEIR APPROACHES TO WELLBEING…
Ali and Finn are two mums on a mission to break the stigma around mental health. Ali lives in Bath with her partner Anthony and their two toddlers Max and Orla. After Orla was born, Ali was diagnosed with Postnatal Depression and it was the first time she had suffered any mental health issues. She felt shocked at how little support was available, other than medication. As a creative soul, she used journaling and crafting to support her recovery.
Finn lives in Cambridge with her husband Oli and their baby son Jasper-Fox. Having suffered with anxiety and depression for as long as she can remember, it really surfaced during her adolescent years and has been a regular part of her life ever since. After her son was born, she went through a very low period. This is when she connected with Ali, as she was sharing ideas about the Positive Planner on social media.
HOW DO YOU LOOK AFTER YOUR MENTAL WELLBEING?
“Looking after our mental health is an ever evolving learning process, but the most important and empowering thing we have both learnt to do is give it the attention, importance and focus it deserves, making it a natural instinct to protect like our physical health is.
Little and often is our motto, forming small habits throughout our day, week or month, that focus on nourishing and nurturing our mental health and wellbeing. We both write daily, even if it is just a small gratitude list to end our day before switching the lights out or setting manageable intentions and positive daily mottos on awaking or with our morning coffee. We embrace things which help us to enter in to a mindful state such as art, yoga or running and when life is to hectic to allow theses things we have lists of uplifting music that can play in the background of whatever else if happening, these small habits help one to see the positives and encourage a good mental state.”
WHAT IS YOUR NUMBER ONE SELF-CARE TIP?
“Less is more. Do less, but be more present in what you do do. Be confident to say no if it means allowing yourself the time and space needed to embrace, enjoy and digest the experiences you are present in. Declutter and go for quality over quantity as this will enable you to relax far more and feel less stressed and anxious about fitting everything in. Make time for a date with yourself, plan a trip alone with yourself for company and go with the flow, perhaps a gallery you want to visit, or a garden you want to walk around. Allow yourself this time to be at one with yourself.”
Mental health touches each and every one of us, and their ambition for the Positive Planner movement is to become a symbol of solidarity and acceptance for what is sometimes seen as a taboo subject.